Heres the thing I just don't understand. I am a child of divorce and was never coddled, catered to, placated, or led to believe I was so entitled. Has it ruin my life? Certainly not, and more to the contrary.Instead, I have learned to be a strong resourceful, independent, hard working woman who is not defined by my parents divorce. My mom never taught me that I should have everything, or that people should feel bad for me just because my parents aren't married, and don't live with me anymore, nor can they stand to be in the same room. And that was about 30 years ago, when it was unusual to divorce and we were the minority in a small town. These days blended families and children of divorce are becoming much more common... at least half of all families are now. And these "poor little children" actually get a whole lot because they are children of divorce. They get double in most cases. TWO, YES TWO of everything. Birthday parties, parties, holidays, presents, bedrooms, sets of clothes, entertainment systems, etc ect, not to mention the two sets of parents, of mom and her new family (if any man is crazy enough to somehow be coerced into marring the psychos) and poor dear ol' daddy who works his fingers to the bone just to give up a good percentage of his paycheck to provide for the "child of the marriage" as the divorce papers put it, while mom sits on her lazy tush and collects her second paycheck ( in many cases) while all the time brainwashing the kids into thinking that Step mommy (daddy) is evil and daddy doesn't love them as much as he loves his "new" family. Or that the new guy she bring in is the "real dad". because a real dad would be there every day. Poor, poor kids... actually I do feel for them, as they will be shocked to learn that nothing is handed to you in this world, you have to either be filthy rich, or be a real fighter to get by.
But anyway, what about feeling bad for the poor kids of the "Second family" who don't get even half of what these entitled "suffering children of divorce" get...poor dad cant afford to care for them in this way and poor mom (step mommy) can't either because shes busy playing ketchup and picking up all the financial slack and paying all the bills they are struggling with due to dads overpriced CS payments-----? they are the kids we should feel sorry for...but do we? no. Would any sane BM would allow their kids to expect so much and use that as an excuse to be a spoiled, disrespectful, rude little brat? NO.
The fathers play their part in this just as much, allowing their kids to grow up like this and treat adults this way! "o I feel so guilty for not living under your roof with you, let me make up for it with (insert what ever it is they want at the moment). O we only have them every once in a while, just ignore that behavior, and tantrum, and name calling, and general disrespect, but lets go get what the kid wants, they deserve it just for being from my gene pool. !!!!!!
I am one of five " children of divorce" and None of us would have ever dreamed of behaving in this way AT ALL. We all learned to take care of ourselves, and each other and be responsible people law abiding citizens. Otherwise both mommy and daddy would not hesitate to take time out of their lives to make us aware that we were entitled to some discipline. The thing that our parents never let us forget is that regardless of the divorce, life had to go on, and we were children regardless of that.