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   wickedstep
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   Ok, I hate to complain, but I have had about enough of this. SD 10 & SD 13 think they own my house MY HOUSE when they come over for visitation EOW and every Wednesday after school. Apparently Their BM doesn't make then do anything at their house, and DH told me their rooms were absolute pigsties. I as much as ask them to use a coaster, or take their plates to the sink and I get evil glares and a cold shoulder until they pretty much need something, and Daddy is not around to ask. That is only the tip of the iceberg. They raid the closets, eating anything remotely related to junk, hog the TV the whole time they are around, leave wrappers & dirty dishes all over the house, and have numerous times spilled things on the furniture. I basically have to scrub the house and do an overhaul every time they leave. When I say anything to Dh I am the bad guy, and am accused of not accepting the stepkids. He has said in the past that I am out to get them, and that I need to treat them better because they have been through a lot. WELL! thats fine, but just because they have it "o so rough" , it means that after a hard days work I have to come home to a disgusting mess, all because the princess's need to be catered to?? How do you deal with this? I'm so frustrated!

   "Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is the probable reason why so few engage in it."

   Posted 2 years ago #
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   NannyMcFe
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   Seriously, I'm in your boat girl. I stopped catering to their every whim, I just make sure their needs are being met. I was making 2 trips to the grocery store every week, and we are talking filling the cart. Those piggies would have cleaned us out by the end of the next day. I just stopped buying the junk, and made it clear that only one trip to the store was all we could afford. I actually had to feed them ramen noodles two weeks in a row in the beginning, just to get the point across. Now they have learned to slow it down. I still ketch DH taking them for fast food between meals sometimes, which burns me to no end.

   Who says you have to give birth to be a mother?

   Posted 2 years ago #

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