Hi all, I'm the Sm of two girls, 10& 14. We have them full time, but get no CS ( got to love the fairness). Their BM choses to be a lazy slob, and has re-married, but doesn't want custody because it would ruin the dead beat ambiance of her new marriage. Anyway, Things were good befor I let them all move in, but a few months after Dh and I were married, he lost his well paying job and was forced to settle for a much lower paying job. My job is great so I end up picking up most of the bills, since he still pays her child support, which is all but about $100. of his paycheck. To make it even better, He does not chip in with the household chores, or cooking. He has no idea what discipline means, and lets the girls do whatever and run a muck. I am so run down and tired off all this crap, I think I have about had it. I feel like just walking out the door, and leaving them all behind. But hey it's my house right? argh I just want to scream.
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NannyMcFe
MemberWho says you have to give birth to be a mother?Posted 2 years ago # -
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Ursula
MemberIt is your house, but you have invited them all in.. but that doesn't mean they can treat you like crap. Sound like a major household sit down is in order. First with your Dh, then the kids. You may need to go on strike with the house work for a while, just to get the point across. Let Dh know that you are not a free ride, and that if he and his daughters don't start pitching in and carrying their weight, then things will be a changing . Since his daughters are at an age that they can read, draw up a list of chores for each one , each week. It sounds like they would respond to getting privileges taken away if they chores are not done, rather then earning things, but you would know better. Theres no reason for you to live like this, and you will no doubt face some opposition at first, but stick to your guns, things will change if you stick with it. Sometimes you just have to show them how serious you really are.
"Jesus was a stepchild too."Posted 2 years ago # -
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wickedstep
MemberNanny- sounds like you need a girls night out! ( or girls day) don't feel bad about taking time for yourself!
"Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is the probable reason why so few engage in it."Posted 2 years ago #
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